Does my bum look big in this?

Possibly the most difficult question to answer ever!..... 😊

And in recognition of this I’m dedicating this week’s blog to Honesty Day on 30th April

Here are just a few possible answers you could give -

• Yes

• No

• Define ‘big’?

• Hmmmmm….

• Ummmmm…..

• Yes, but you have a magnificent arse

• Yes, because you have a big bum

• No, as if! I’ve seen more meat on a budgies kneecap

• Why do you care?

• What do you want me to say?

• What do you think?

The truth is that question can be so loaded and is often being asked from a place of insecurity, fear and/or low confidence levels, the person being asked doesn’t know how to answer – with honesty or without?

I’ve been pondering how truly honest I am, I’ve noticed my immediate thoughts go to ‘of course, I’m super honest, I always tell the truth!’ with a very self-assured look on my face.  However, embodying the spirit of ‘Honesty Day’ this isn’t the truth at all – for a start I’m a parent – I’m hoping all the parents reading this are now virtually high fiving me here 😊 and secondly, I avoid conflict like the plague, it has such an impact on me emotionally and physically that I’m naturally the peace maker, the fixer, the rescuer, the person who says ‘I’m fine’ when I couldn’t be less fine, and I say it doesn’t matter when the truth is, to me, it matters massively.

I find myself not speaking my truth or speaking at all in some cases when someone says something that has hurt my feelings or stung, or when I’m asked a question that my honest answer will mean they could think I’m a heartless breeze block or possibly a serial killer 😊 but seriously I’m really fine with admitting that sometimes I fib, I exaggerate, I embellish, sometimes I choose to react by keeping quiet, and sometimes I realise I just need to be a bit more BADASS, and that confidence is one of the biggest ingredients to living more honestly and authentically in all aspects of our lives.

Has any of this resonated with you?....

To find out more about the BADASS Confidence Blueprint and join a practical super action-oriented half day online workshop email me at hello@clairebakercoaching.com

Love

CB

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