Are you PBA?
What is PBA I hear you say? (I’m a poet – not! 😊)…..
PBA stands for Present But Absent.
PBA is when you are physically present but you are mentally, emotionally, energetically, spiritually absent. Your thoughts and attention are completely elsewhere.
To be clear this is not just being busy, multi-tasking, stressed, PBA is where you no longer hear your partner or kids asking you questions, you’re ticking a box by ‘showing up’ whether that’s at home, an event, in work – so you are seen, but in reality, you are not really there. Your brain can’t seem to find the place to read a bedtime story either at all, or with the dinosaur noises and other characters voices your kids are asking you to perform.
If you do hear anything it’s possibly the negative comments, the ‘nagging’, the lack of understanding from those around you who don’t seem to realise how busy you are, how much is on your plate….
“It’s like you’re not here!”
“You’re always on your phone!”
“Why is that more important than spending time with your family?”
“I bet you’ve forgotten to put the bins out…AGAIN!”
If you’ve read this and its uncomfortable reading then first and foremost you are not alone, with the demands on our lives PBA is far more common now than it has ever been particularly with technology and communication more accessible. Which is ironic because the bit that is lacking, or absent in many cases is communication – speaking, chatting, listening, really listening to those people in your life, who at the moment may feel like they don’t matter. We both know that is not true, of course they matter, but showing up, being truly present is not easy.
PBA could be a real sign that you’re overwhelmed in some areas of your life, your body and mind is deciding where to use its energy and growling like a dinosaur to make your son laugh just isn’t energetically possible for you right now. No judgement here, but I encourage you to really consider that when your PBA, what you could be missing out on, awesome memories, vital information, the reason why your relationships is failing…..
PBA is one of the areas I work on with my Sort Your Sh!t Out clients – my VIP Days provide personalised 121 coaching and the accountability required to implement immediate and lifelong change throughout the most important areas of your life.
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Love
CB
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